In case you missed it – we’re pregnant!! You know what they say… 6th time is a charm 🙂
It’s been a wild ride to get here and we’re so excited / cautiously optimistic considering the path we had to get here. All that said, I was inundated with questions about everything so I wanted to go ahead and put it on the website so it can be used as a reference down the road if you or anyone else you know might need it! Is this website changing into something other than a food blog, absolutely not. Tomorrow we’ll be back in action with recipes that will slowly transition us into fall mode.
So here goes…
First off – if you want to hear what the last 3+ years of this journey looked like, we made you a video. It’s got a LOT of information in it including the amount of times we miscarried, details about chemical pregnancies, how we handled each hurdle etc. Once that went up, my email and DM’s were flooded with questions so answering them all below. If I missed something, please feel free to comment below (you can do it anonymously if you prefer) and I can update this resource as needed. And feel free to share this link with anyone in your life that might be needing some intel!
- Winter 2017: 1st pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after
- Mid 2018: 2nd pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after
- Fall 2018: 3rd pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after
- 2019: 4th chemical pregnancy – no D&C needed.
- Fall 2019: 4th pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after followed by my septum surgery.
- 2020: 6th pregnancy that we thought was a chemical pregnancy and then turned out it wasn’t! Full details are on the video and fingers crossed this one is smooth sailing from here on out!
- Who was your fertility specialist: Dr Andy Huang at RPMG – we absolutely love him. He made every appointment relaxed and is a wealth of knowledge. Couldn’t recommend him more!
- What video resources did you use to educate yourselves before going to see a specialist: Fertility IQ has a ton of videos that educate you on the lingo used for fertility appointments and this was super helpful for us!
- Did you do Genetic Testing: yes!! all of it. Anything our doctors recommended, we did. Waiting for my nurse to call me back with specific tests, and will update ASAP
- Why didn’t you try IUI: IUI was never an option for us because the eggs aren’t genetically tested. Since past miscarriages were caused by chromosomal abnormalities, our doctor ruled out IUI.
- Did you consider IVF: we sure did! If you watch the video, you’ll see we were about to get started when we found out we were pregnant this most recent time.
- Why did you opt for D&C’s rather than just waiting it out: personal question and it’s really up to everyone to make these decisions on their own. For me, I like to plan things out so I wanted to be able to know when it was going to happen and when I could be back in action. Simple as that.
Supplements / Prenatals / Workouts / Books etc:
- Pre-natal Vitamins: these are the ones that all my doctors have recommended to me.
- Did you change your workout routine: nope. I continued to do pilates every day but modified to not do quite so many abs. I would have continued to lift weights had it not been for Covid // my gym is closed.
- Have you changed how you eat: I have not. I’ve talked to numerous doctors, read tons of books and know exactly what I am and am not comfortable eating. I will continue to eat burrata until I go into labor. That’s all there is to it!
- What books have you been reading to help prepare: Expecting Better is the only one I have read cover to cover so far. I’ll continue to update this as I read more.
- Are you using a pregnancy pillow: you betcha! This one has been amazing!
- Did any of your pregnancies feel different / leading up to miscarrying etc. No – unfortunately they all felt the same so there was really no way for me to tell if it was going to stick leading up to the first couple of doctors appointments
- What at-home pregnancy tests did you use: I bought these in BULK the last few years
- What at-home ovulation kits did you use: here you go
- What’s the best way to support someone who is going through fertility issues: Everyone is so wildly different, I think it’s best to let them dictate what they need from you. Offer to be there for whatever they might need and then let them tell you what will be best. Me for example, I don’t want to have someone asking me how I’m doing all the time. So my friends know that if I want to talk about something, I’ll bring it up. Also many of them sent flowers or bottles or wine and cookies after my surgeries – always appreciated!!
- Did you experience any anxiety after miscarriages: not really because we were very prepared for the possibility of miscarriage. Coming from a medical family, I knew that 1 in 4 women miscarry so I never really got my hopes up to start.
- How did you stay positive while in the throws of fertility struggles: Great question – it’s all about filling up your life with other things that make you happy. Spending time with your family, making incredible food, traveling, etc. There are so many other things that fill us up, we focused on those!
- What did you eat in your first trimester: my diet was heavy on the grilled cheese and quesadilla world. I think I ate like 2 vegetables for those weeks. I couldn’t stomach them.