We’re Pregnant!! (our whole fertility journey thus far)

In case you missed it – we’re pregnant!! You know what they say… 6th time is a charm ๐Ÿ™‚

It’s been a wild ride to get here and we’re so excited / cautiously optimistic considering the path we had to get here. All that said, I was inundated with questions about everything so I wanted to go ahead and put it on the website so it can be used as a reference down the road if you or anyone else you know might need it! Is this website changing into something other than a food blog, absolutely not. Tomorrow we’ll be back in action with recipes that will slowly transition us into fall mode.

So here goes…

First off – if you want to hear what the last 3+ years of this journey looked like, we made you a video. It’s got a LOT of information in it including the amount of times we miscarried, details about chemical pregnancies, how we handled each hurdle etc. Once that went up, my email and DM’s were flooded with questions so answering them all below. If I missed something, please feel free to comment below (you can do it anonymously if you prefer) and I can update this resource as needed. And feel free to share this link with anyone in your life that might be needing some intel!

Medical History:

  • Winter 2017: 1st pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after
  • Mid 2018: 2nd pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after
  • Fall 2018: 3rd pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after
  • 2019: 4th chemical pregnancy – no D&C needed.
  • Fall 2019: 4th pregnancy – miscarried at 7/8 weeks – D&C shortly after followed by my septum surgery.
  • 2020: 6th pregnancy that we thought was a chemical pregnancy and then turned out it wasn’t! Full details are on the video and fingers crossed this one is smooth sailing from here on out!

Doctor Intel:

  • Who was your fertility specialist: Dr Andy Huang at RPMG – we absolutely love him. He made every appointment relaxed and is a wealth of knowledge. Couldn’t recommend him more!
  • What video resources did you use to educate yourselves before going to see a specialist: Fertility IQ has a ton of videos that educate you on the lingo used for fertility appointments and this was super helpful for us!
  • Did you do Genetic Testing: yes!! all of it. Anything our doctors recommended, we did. Waiting for my nurse to call me back with specific tests, and will update ASAP
  • Why didn’t you try IUI: IUI was never an option for us because the eggs aren’t genetically tested. Since past miscarriages were caused by chromosomal abnormalities, our doctor ruled out IUI.
  • Did you consider IVF: we sure did! If you watch the video, you’ll see we were about to get started when we found out we were pregnant this most recent time.
  • Why did you opt for D&C’s rather than just waiting it out: personal question and it’s really up to everyone to make these decisions on their own. For me, I like to plan things out so I wanted to be able to know when it was going to happen and when I could be back in action. Simple as that.

Supplements / Prenatals / Workouts / Books etc:

  • Pre-natal Vitamins: these are the ones that all my doctors have recommended to me.
  • Did you change your workout routine: nope. I continued to do pilates every day but modified to not do quite so many abs. I would have continued to lift weights had it not been for Covid // my gym is closed.
  • Have you changed how you eat: I have not. I’ve talked to numerous doctors, read tons of books and know exactly what I am and am not comfortable eating. I will continue to eat burrata until I go into labor. That’s all there is to it!
  • What books have you been reading to help prepare: Expecting Better is the only one I have read cover to cover so far. I’ll continue to update this as I read more.
  • Are you using a pregnancy pillow: you betcha! This one has been amazing!

General Questions:

  • Did any of your pregnancies feel different / leading up to miscarrying etc. No – unfortunately they all felt the same so there was really no way for me to tell if it was going to stick leading up to the first couple of doctors appointments
  • What at-home pregnancy tests did you use: I bought these in BULK the last few years
  • What at-home ovulation kits did you use: here you go
  • What’s the best way to support someone who is going through fertility issues: Everyone is so wildly different, I think it’s best to let them dictate what they need from you. Offer to be there for whatever they might need and then let them tell you what will be best. Me for example, I don’t want to have someone asking me how I’m doing all the time. So my friends know that if I want to talk about something, I’ll bring it up. Also many of them sent flowers or bottles or wine and cookies after my surgeries – always appreciated!!
  • Did you experience any anxiety after miscarriages: not really because we were very prepared for the possibility of miscarriage. Coming from a medical family, I knew that 1 in 4 women miscarry so I never really got my hopes up to start.
  • How did you stay positive while in the throws of fertility struggles: Great question – it’s all about filling up your life with other things that make you happy. Spending time with your family, making incredible food, traveling, etc. There are so many other things that fill us up, we focused on those!
  • What did you eat in your first trimester: my diet was heavy on the grilled cheese and quesadilla world. I think I ate like 2 vegetables for those weeks. I couldn’t stomach them.

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  1. Pam

    Lovely & Loving couple.!! Congratulations! Your insights, honesty & willingness to share are remarkable. I wish you both a wonderful new addition to your family. I am watching this video on a Sat. night!! That is how good you both are.
    xoxo, Pam

  2. Barbara

    Congratulations! Your video brought back memories of my own fertility struggles. I went through 3 IVF treatments. 2 of them were successful and I have 2 beautiful daughters! Thanks for sharing your journey. Even tho everyone’s story is different, it will give them hope! Blessings to you both ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. anonymous

    Congratulations! Thank you so much for sharing your story. It brings comfort and hope to those of us on this infertility journey. I know everyone’s situation is different but curious if you cut out or really limited alcohol while you were trying to conceive. Three years in (unexplained infertility) and it is hard to balance wanting to live as normally as possible without adding the extra stress/limitations of trying to create the perfect environment. If that makes any sense.

    • anonymous

      That makes me feel better. With quarantine especially trying to hold on to things that bring joy and wine is one of them ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. Susan

    Congratulations and best wishes — your candid and heartfelt sharing of your journey is an inspiration. I wish I had an ounce of your positivity and perseverance!

  5. Renee

    Thank you so much for sharing your story. This has brought me comfort in knowing Iโ€™m not alone. I admire your courage to be open and share.

  6. pooja agarwal

    Thank you for sharing your story. Could you please tell how long before you got pregnant did you start having prenatals?

    • Gaby

      years as we were trying for 3 years so I started right when we first thought about having kids

  7. Becca Nisetich

    Can you reshare your exercises or help for sacrum pain? My SIL is having so many issues with this and Iโ€™d love to share your resources, since they worked!